Victim Anger or Protective Anger

 Victim Anger or Protective Anger

Do you often feel anger when criticized or hurt? Anger isn’t merely an emotion that happens to you; it’s a reaction you create within yourself.  Did you know there are two types of anger – Victim and protective anger?   Everyone knows about violent anger – that hurtful, loud and aggressive anger.  We all have done this when we have been hurt, abused, embarrassed, humiliated.  We want revenge!  But when we yell, scream and abuse another, we act as a Victim of whatever caused the anger.

The positive side of anger is protective anger.  The righteous anger that comes up in all of us

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Victim anger can be detrimental, sapping energy and negatively impacting health, relationships, and opportunities. On the contrary, protective anger strengthens you to stand up for others and advocate for what’s right.     Distinguishing between Victim and Protective anger may be tough, but regulating emotions and attitudes is attainable. Imagine the empowerment of such control over anger.

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Do trivial matters upset you? Eradicating such anger can lead to a more joyful life.

Strive for peace today with these strategies:

  1. Daily, envision a life free from anger’s grip. Foster positivity and strive for tranquillity.
  2. Lighten up. When anger strikes, act. Distraction can be a powerful tool. It may not solve the issue, but it can give you clarity.
  3. Count to ten. This age-old advice from moms helps create mental space to find better reactions.
  4. Drink some water. It not only distracts but might also address dehydration, enhancing mood.
  5. Centre on your breathing. Redirecting focus from the anger source and taking deep breaths can soothe.
  6. Accept diverse opinions. Getting angry over disagreements is futile. Appreciate others’ viewpoints.
  7. Commit to calm reactions. Intentions can shape outcomes.
  8. Seek humour. Anger diminishes when you’re laughing. Find something funny or recall a comedic memory.
  9. Prioritize patience. A patient demeanour grants more choices and freedom, keeping emotions in check.
  10. Foster positivity. Reframe situations optimistically. Positive thinking fosters contentment.

Anger: Sign of Childhood Trauma?

Anger can indicate past unresolved traumas, triggering subconscious protection mechanisms, often leading to hasty choices. Continuous work on emotional regulation is crucial. If anger persists, consider therapy. With the right support, most can navigate and address their anger.

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