Anger is an emotion. Like all emotions, anger is helpful to vent or let off steam when needed, but it must be controlled. Out-of-control anger is damaging and destructive. Victim anger takes you further down the rabbit hole. Protective anger gives you power, strength and the ability to take control. You know you have ‘got this’ when you are protecting your self or others in a clean healthy way.
Social anxiety can be challenging to cope with, but there are ways to make it easier. Realise too, everyone has experienced social anxiety at some time, so you are not alone. Pay attention to your feelings, your fears and what triggers the emotional reactions you feel. Knowing and understanding what is going on ‘for you’ is the secret to overcoming your anxieties. Knowing all anxieties are linked to a fear of loss, figuring out what you are scared of losing will give you an insight into why social encounters are challenging for you. Knowledge is the first step in overcoming your social anxiety.
Your mind is always listening. No matter whether you think it, say it, see it, hear it, read it, or imagine it …. your mind starts a process to bring ‘that thought’ into your reality. The more you dwell on it, the higher the priority the creation is given. Do not dwell on what you do NOT want! Thinking “I will get Covid!’ will bring it closer and more probable. Think rather, I am healthy and I have a brilliant immune system, my body can cpe with anything the world throws at me. If you want to speak on stage: Imagine the audience applauding your brilliant speech AFTER you finish. Use your imagination to bring the things YOU WANT closer and into your reality. Use I CHOOSE TO KNOW statements to reframe your negative thoughts. Your mind is always listening, so feed it what you want to achieve and live in your life.
Does that voice in your head stop you succeeding? The path from Fear to freedom is blocked by the things we think, hear, and believe! Success is on the other side of Fear. Start to think differently. Fear is (NOT) what you think it is.
Change is inevitable. Just like taxes and death, it is sure to happen. So, choose to embrace the challenge and see it as an opportunity to do things differently. Whether its a job loss, a pandemic, moving house, or a child leaving home that is taking you out of your comfort zone, choose to see the change as a positive. What can you do now? Perhaps you always wanted to start a business? Trade online? Volunteer? Explore a new area or meet different people. Every change has hidden possibilities. Find them. Focus on the benefits not the negatives to live a stress free life.
Our mental health and physical should be our first priority every day. Eat well, exercise daily, rest, relax and communicate with others. Take time out for yourself – put yourself first – it is essential part of living healthily.
Do you plan to succeed? Most people spend more time planning their next holiday than they do setting out an itinerary to guide them to achieve the lifestyle they want to live when they retire. Most of us are ‘kids’ for 20 years, we work for 40 years, then we retire for 20 to 30 years! Your last years: you have time, money, less responsibility: how do you want to live? Health, wealth and location! What’s your dream?
How do you start to put ‘You’ first after 20 years of putting the kids first? We all long for the day the kids leave home and then they do! What to do now? We have time, more money, and can’t think of what to do. Sounds familiar? Then you are suffering from empty nest syndrome. For Mums it can be very stressful: suddenly you are feeling you have passed your Use By Date! You spend 16 hrs a day ‘doing’ for your kids and then they don’t need or want your help. Now its time for you, but you have forgotten what you want to do. My e-book might give you some ideas.
Do we take laughter seriously enough? I don’t think so. There is huge ‘scientifically proven’ medical benefits to be gained just from laughing. We attract more friends, Our mental wellbeing is better, we tend to be happier and to live longer. Another huge plus, is our mental capiticy also improves. So if you aren’t prone to laugh a lot, make friends with people who do, as laughter is infectious. You cannot help becoming addicted to laughing once it becomes part of your daily life. So copy others, laugh for no reason – fake it till you make it – but laugh every day. You will be amazed how good you begin to constantly feel.
Our habits, both good and bad, control what we do, and often how we do it. These habits have been formed from years of repetitively doing the same thing every day, in the same way, usually at the same time. Try cleaning your teeth with your non-dominant hand to see how ‘programmed’ we have all become. Our phone habits, computer habits are now dictating how we even wake in the morning. Think about it, what habits are controlling your life? Is it time to change a few?
