Social anxiety is debilitating and holds many people ‘prisoners’ of their own imagination. This type of anxiety usually starts with shyness, but is almost always increased by ‘well-intentioned’ prompting by others. “Don’t be silly… theres nothing to worry about!” (And of course, something happens!) There could be trauma, bullying or mocking memories but ultimately it is our own ‘imagining’ disasters happening that keep us frozen. Life is for living. Here are some tips and hints to help you overcome your fears and start interacting with others.
It is the little things that matter when you are ‘different!’ Whether it is because you are a bit quirky, overweight, loud, or simply born a little physically or mentally different – all you really want to be is accepted, respected and treated like everyone else. Its time for humanity to step up! Its time for everyone to be ‘respected!’
Values dictate your results. What you prioritise in your life is neither right nor wrong, it is simply something that you put a high value on attaining. You may be an avid saver or a shopaholic. A Mum passionate about her children and family or a career person – Values are individual. It is when life is ‘not working for you’ you feel stuck or constantly procrastinating, that you need to gain direction. A Values Determination will show you exactly why you are feeling so demotivated. When your Values are aligned with your daily life/career life simply flows from one success to another.
International Women’s Day is a day to celebrate our amazing female citizens. All of them. Those who are successful, offer a helping hand to help others on their way to success. Become mentors, whether it be in sport, business, education, or motherhood… Those who are just beginning their journey (no matter your age) look for those who are your ‘role models’ and connect with them, follow them, copy them. Stand on the shoulders of those who have achieved (male and female) so you can truly achieve your potential.
Random Acts of Kindness bring joy to both the giver and the receiver. But even those who observe kindness feel better just seeing the kind act. Pay it Forward at every opportunity… you never know whose life you may change. Kindness and smiles create a ripple effect!
The foundation of our identity has been set by the time we are 7 years old. We absorbed everything, good or bad that happens. Everything we hear, see, feel or experience we believe is ‘about us!’ Our beliefs are based on these perceptions. That is scary. Imagine asking a 7 year old to make decision for your future. As we grow, these ‘unconscious beliefs’ determine how we view our world. Most are not true but influence us nonetheless. Its time to change. The key to success is facing the past, updating our beliefs and moving into the future with confidence and a new identity.
Gratitude is easily shown by compliments. Say thank you! You can give a card, a small gift or just simply let the person know you appreciate their contribution. But compliments are more than this. Make a strangers day with a compliment! Look at people when you are out. Notice what they wear, their children, the way they treat people. It is so easy to say: You look great; love that colour on you; what well behaved children you have! It’s easy, try and notice how the smile you receive lights up your day in return!
Anger is wasted energy and is never the answer to a problem. However, bottling up your anger is also not a good idea. When you feel yourself getting angry, try to change your state! What do I mean? It is physically impossible to laugh and be angry! You cannot smile and frown at the same time. So when you start to get angry, do something stupid on purpose. Not dumb, stupid. Something that will make you and others laugh. Break the tension, break the moment. Take the opportunity to get another perspective.
Mental health is so important. During Covid-19 most of us have had to deal with life differently. Whether we have been in lockdown; living in isolation or quarantine, or have suffered financially – 2020 has been a year like no other. Most of us will admit to struggling at some point. Sometimes it’s anger. Or it could be fear – both of the virus or what the future holds. It is so important to stay in contact with friends, family or even reach out to a helpline. Share your worries, your fears. Holding it in is never a good solution. When you ‘suppress’ emotions, you create ‘depression!’ Talk… to anyone. Watch YouTube comedies. Stop watching the news – it is always going to make you feel worse! And know – this will pass. Everything does.