Most of us are not born ‘assertive.’ It is a learned skill, but it is very necessary. We need to know how to politely say ‘No’; how to express our needs; and to be calm and clear when dealing with others. Those who can communicate their views, pleasure and displeasure to others without creating offensive are rewarded for their skills. Leadership is a combination of empathy, understanding and assertiveness. Practice your skills.
Anger is wasted energy and is never the answer to a problem. However, bottling up your anger is also not a good idea. When you feel yourself getting angry, try to change your state! What do I mean? It is physically impossible to laugh and be angry! You cannot smile and frown at the same time. So when you start to get angry, do something stupid on purpose. Not dumb, stupid. Something that will make you and others laugh. Break the tension, break the moment. Take the opportunity to get another perspective.
Covid-19 has unexpected benefits to health and family life, that most of us didn’t expect. Parents have more time to share with children, more time to exercise, extra cash (if you are working from home). Families are enjoying home-cooked meals and less ‘time stress’. Yes there are downside, but lets focus on the benefits from a moment.
Fear! The majority of us ‘think’ we are scared of failure! But thats a lie we tell ourselves! Really we are terrified of success. Who will I become when I achieve my goals? What will I lose? Will I change? Will I like me? All these negativities and lots more get in our way to success! But you can change Your Mind, and make success exciting and the natural thing to do.
Bringing Balance into our Lives starts with our Thinking! When we focus too much on the ‘bad, the things that go wrong, the negatives’ we become depressed and anxious. Trying to always focus on the good, the positives, expecting only good things to happen creates a ‘fantasy’ world that unrealistic. We need to bring balance to our thinking, lives and expectations.
Are your relationships balanced? When one person in a relationship gives up ‘being themselves’ and is always deferring to the other person’s wishes, it quickly becomes a ‘careful/careless’ relationship! Relationships break down when values are not being met! If you find yourself always ‘keeping the peace’, it is time to do ;something’ different!
We all have a unique set of values, or priorities, that drive and inspire us from within. It is the ‘gut feeling’ or the ‘burning desire’ that motivates us to do more, be more and achieve unthinkable greatness. Wouldn’t you like to know what drives You?
Are You Happy? If not, What’s holding you back? For most of us, we keep doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results! That’s madness! To change results, we need to change what we are doing!
Decision making can be easy if you look for the balance first. Write down the positives and negatives of each choice! Ask yourself, what will I lose? What will I gain? Remove the ‘hype, excitement, emotion’ from the decision making process. This will allow you to make a clear headed decision based more on fact than fantasy!
Decisions to Change start consciously but are executed sub-consciously! But it does not matter how determined we are to change a part of our life if, our ‘sub-conscious mind’ does not believe its ‘safe’ for us to do so, owe will run out of willpower or self-sabotage before we succeed. Why! We all have ‘unconscious core beliefs’ that sabotage us. So, the first step to achieving lasting results is to change the Unconscious limiting beliefs.