Failing to decide is equal to deciding to fail. Every day we are presented with choices: what to eat, to wear, to do; these are very basics. More important choices pop up unexpectedly, getting into the habit or being comfortable to make a snap decision (based on previous experiences) is an art and practice is the way to perfect it. Practice making quick decisions. Every decision can be corrected by another. Write down the pros and cons of life-changing decisions – anaylsis against your desired outcome. If it fits, go with it. Keep moving to get more out of life.
It is the little things that matter when you are ‘different!’ Whether it is because you are a bit quirky, overweight, loud, or simply born a little physically or mentally different – all you really want to be is accepted, respected and treated like everyone else. Its time for humanity to step up! Its time for everyone to be ‘respected!’
Our mental health is as fragile as an arm or a leg. It will bend and twist a certain amount. Legs absorb pressure when we jump and fall. But push the limits and they fracture. So to our Minds. Your Mind is flexible, it takes a lot of punishment, and if you get pushed to the limits too often, it may just crack. Like our bones need realigning so too do our Minds need to be rebalanced.
Gratitude is easily shown by compliments. Say thank you! You can give a card, a small gift or just simply let the person know you appreciate their contribution. But compliments are more than this. Make a strangers day with a compliment! Look at people when you are out. Notice what they wear, their children, the way they treat people. It is so easy to say: You look great; love that colour on you; what well behaved children you have! It’s easy, try and notice how the smile you receive lights up your day in return!
Most of us are not born ‘assertive.’ It is a learned skill, but it is very necessary. We need to know how to politely say ‘No’; how to express our needs; and to be calm and clear when dealing with others. Those who can communicate their views, pleasure and displeasure to others without creating offensive are rewarded for their skills. Leadership is a combination of empathy, understanding and assertiveness. Practice your skills.
Anger is wasted energy and is never the answer to a problem. However, bottling up your anger is also not a good idea. When you feel yourself getting angry, try to change your state! What do I mean? It is physically impossible to laugh and be angry! You cannot smile and frown at the same time. So when you start to get angry, do something stupid on purpose. Not dumb, stupid. Something that will make you and others laugh. Break the tension, break the moment. Take the opportunity to get another perspective.
Covid-19 has unexpected benefits to health and family life, that most of us didn’t expect. Parents have more time to share with children, more time to exercise, extra cash (if you are working from home). Families are enjoying home-cooked meals and less ‘time stress’. Yes there are downside, but lets focus on the benefits from a moment.
Fear! The majority of us ‘think’ we are scared of failure! But thats a lie we tell ourselves! Really we are terrified of success. Who will I become when I achieve my goals? What will I lose? Will I change? Will I like me? All these negativities and lots more get in our way to success! But you can change Your Mind, and make success exciting and the natural thing to do.
Bringing Balance into our Lives starts with our Thinking! When we focus too much on the ‘bad, the things that go wrong, the negatives’ we become depressed and anxious. Trying to always focus on the good, the positives, expecting only good things to happen creates a ‘fantasy’ world that unrealistic. We need to bring balance to our thinking, lives and expectations.
Are your relationships balanced? When one person in a relationship gives up ‘being themselves’ and is always deferring to the other person’s wishes, it quickly becomes a ‘careful/careless’ relationship! Relationships break down when values are not being met! If you find yourself always ‘keeping the peace’, it is time to do ;something’ different!