Victim Anger or Protective Anger
Getting angry is normal. Anger is an Emotion. It is seem as detrimental, as something you don’t ever want to use. But the truth is, there is two kinds of anger. Victim anger is when a person has been bullied, or abused by a bigger, older or more influential person (the victims perception) and couldn’t or wouldn’t stand up for themself. The victim will scream: Thats not fair, please don’t do that to me! leave me alone etc. Protective anger is when you see someone being bullied and you step up and say: Leave him alone, get away, get back, You will have me to answer to! Its an empowering anger. We have all been there – probably in both situations. In one scenario: the person is powerless, angry and out of control. Anger is an afterthought. The ‘I should, could, would of’ wishes that haunts until resolved. In the second, the person uses protective anger – a good strong anger to take control, to push back and protect. There is true power and goodness in protective anger. This is the anger we all need in our emotional tool kit.
