Social anxiety is debilitating and holds many people ‘prisoners’ of their own imagination. This type of anxiety usually starts with shyness, but is almost always increased by ‘well-intentioned’ prompting by others. “Don’t be silly… theres nothing to worry about!” (And of course, something happens!) There could be trauma, bullying or mocking memories but ultimately it is our own ‘imagining’ disasters happening that keep us frozen. Life is for living. Here are some tips and hints to help you overcome your fears and start interacting with others.
The foundation of our identity has been set by the time we are 7 years old. We absorbed everything, good or bad that happens. Everything we hear, see, feel or experience we believe is ‘about us!’ Our beliefs are based on these perceptions. That is scary. Imagine asking a 7 year old to make decision for your future. As we grow, these ‘unconscious beliefs’ determine how we view our world. Most are not true but influence us nonetheless. Its time to change. The key to success is facing the past, updating our beliefs and moving into the future with confidence and a new identity.
Most of us are not born ‘assertive.’ It is a learned skill, but it is very necessary. We need to know how to politely say ‘No’; how to express our needs; and to be calm and clear when dealing with others. Those who can communicate their views, pleasure and displeasure to others without creating offensive are rewarded for their skills. Leadership is a combination of empathy, understanding and assertiveness. Practice your skills.
We all carry baggage! Baggage from the past! Things we can’t seem to let go of, that ‘pop up’ whenever we try to move forward. These fears create anxiety, stress even depression. The emotions create strangle the joy out of living. What is strangling you? When are you going to ‘let it go?’
Are you living in the past? Do you have trouble making decisions, constantly worrying! What if? Should I? Our Past is not Your Future! But it can get in the way of you fulfilling your dreams. Its time to let it go!
Values, good service, and ‘fair exchange’ are the cornerstones of any business. Natural therapists often undervalue themselves and the service they give and the change they bring to their clients. This reflects a lack of confidence in either themselves or self-worth. There is a mis-conception by ‘New World therapists’ that they must gift their skills to the world. Its time to change that belief! Money is exchanged for service given. The more organised and valued the service given, the greater the reward. Lets start adding value to Natural and alternative therapies.
As a scientist myself for a long time I believed that if something could not be proved then it is not true. Talk about flawed thinking! There are many things in this world that happen and cannot be proven by science. Even though it can’t be proven it still happens. This being the case, then …
The other day I was talking to someone who said that they had to have a big marriage ceremony because the family expected it. This was going to put a considerable financial strain on them. So here was someone who was going to go into debt to have an expensive wedding because the family expected …
I’m doing a walk on the top of the highest building on the Gold Coast in Australia. I’m attached to the building by a strap and harness that can lift 2.5 tonnes; I know this because I read the label on the harness. My guide now says go to the edge hold onto the strap …