Boundaries are the rules or limits that you set to let other people know what you will tolerate. Many ‘people pleasers’ forget to do this. Before you say yes or agree to anyone else’s wishes or demands, make sure you are not saying yes to them and NO to Yourself! When you are forever doing what others want, you are living their lives not yours! Be Yourself – everyone else is already taken!
Australian culture has developed with alcohol being ‘the’ drink for happy, social, in fact, every occasion. But the truth is, alcohol coupled with loneliness, anxiety, stress, fear is a cocktail made in hell. Alcohol and anxiety do not mix. Yes sure, we have all seen the ‘happy drunk!’ But, more often, alcohol fuels the worst in people. Alcohol may numb your mind, but when you wake up the regret can last a lifetime.
Our habits, both good and bad, control what we do, and often how we do it. These habits have been formed from years of repetitively doing the same thing every day, in the same way, usually at the same time. Try cleaning your teeth with your non-dominant hand to see how ‘programmed’ we have all become. Our phone habits, computer habits are now dictating how we even wake in the morning. Think about it, what habits are controlling your life? Is it time to change a few?
Most of us are not born ‘assertive.’ It is a learned skill, but it is very necessary. We need to know how to politely say ‘No’; how to express our needs; and to be calm and clear when dealing with others. Those who can communicate their views, pleasure and displeasure to others without creating offensive are rewarded for their skills. Leadership is a combination of empathy, understanding and assertiveness. Practice your skills.
Anger is wasted energy and is never the answer to a problem. However, bottling up your anger is also not a good idea. When you feel yourself getting angry, try to change your state! What do I mean? It is physically impossible to laugh and be angry! You cannot smile and frown at the same time. So when you start to get angry, do something stupid on purpose. Not dumb, stupid. Something that will make you and others laugh. Break the tension, break the moment. Take the opportunity to get another perspective.
Are you or your kids addicted to screens? Have you even thought about it? If not maybe now is a good time to start watching how often you look at a screen. It is not by accident that ‘Apple’ monitors your ‘screen time’ each day! Check your screen usage…. if its more than an hour per day, ‘outside of work or school commitments’ maybe you have a problem.
When you’re addicted to something, (smoking, gambling, drinking, over-eating, sex) you are a slave to the addiction.
You are the one who should be in control of your life! Is it time to make a change?
If I told you that is possible to overcome emotional eating in 4 easy steps, would you believe me? Possibly! But more likely you were not aware that ’emotional eating’ is the reason that you are struggling to maintain a healthy weight. So let me ask you: Do you feel like you have a never-ending …
When you don’t know ‘why’ or do not have your values aligned with your Purpose, everything you do will be a low priority for you, and a high priority for someone else. Simply said: If you don’t know what you want, your day will be filled by creating satisfaction for someone else.
Do you get trapped in negative thinking! You focus on what went wrong, what didn’t happen! Sometimes, we forget to ‘count our blessings’ and realise that the challenges (negatives) in our lives, build our characters. We are Who we are, due to all the events, good and bad, who mould us! Learn to appreciate the gifts that arise from the challenges we encounter!