Recently, I was talking to a very successful lady. Our conversation started on a very positive note but before long she started talking about how bad her life had been. In no time, the stories were all about how negative things were affecting everything she was doing.
Is Your Life All Bad?
When she stopped for a breath I asked her, so what is the positive in all of this. There was silence and she looked at me as if I were mad. “Seriously,” I said. “What are the positives of the ‘bad things’ that have happened to you?”
Again, there was silence, and then ‘the penny dropped’. Suddenly she realised what I was asking and she opened up. She said, you know if those negative things had not happened to me I would not be where I am today. I certainly would not have the drive and determination that I have.
We Love to Dwell on the Negative
As humans, we seem to naturally gravitate to thinking of the negatives in our lives. The more we do this the more negative life seems to be. It makes sense because you get what you think about.
When was the last time that you took the time to be grateful and see the positive in your life? When was the last time you took the time to appreciate ‘You’? There will always be a positive as well as negatives, you just have to look for it. No matter how bad things may seem. Look for benefits. Do this especially when life is challenging! The saying: When Life serves up lemons, make lemonade…. it is so true. When you can teach yourself to look for the benefits in every situation, the less stress you will encounter.
Be aware of your thinking. If you find yourself going into the negative pull yourself up. It is inevitable that you will have a few negatives thoughts, but don’t continue to get ‘stuck’ in that unhealthy thinking. Deliberately change ‘shitty thinking’ into positive thoughts. With practice, it is very easy to do. There is a video that I love https://youtu.be/Ow0lr63y4Mw Change your thoughts and just ‘Stop it!’
Take time out every day to look for the positives of your day and be grateful. Start a gratitude journal and spend time each day to record everything you are grateful for in your day. Do it before going to bed so that you can go to sleep with a positive mindset and a feeling of gratefulness.