Social anxiety is debilitating and holds many people ‘prisoners’ of their own imagination. This type of anxiety usually starts with shyness, but is almost always increased by ‘well-intentioned’ prompting by others. “Don’t be silly… theres nothing to worry about!” (And of course, something happens!) There could be trauma, bullying or mocking memories but ultimately it is our own ‘imagining’ disasters happening that keep us frozen. Life is for living. Here are some tips and hints to help you overcome your fears and start interacting with others.
Do we take laughter seriously enough? I don’t think so. There is huge ‘scientifically proven’ medical benefits to be gained just from laughing. We attract more friends, Our mental wellbeing is better, we tend to be happier and to live longer. Another huge plus, is our mental capiticy also improves. So if you aren’t prone to laugh a lot, make friends with people who do, as laughter is infectious. You cannot help becoming addicted to laughing once it becomes part of your daily life. So copy others, laugh for no reason – fake it till you make it – but laugh every day. You will be amazed how good you begin to constantly feel.
Our habits, both good and bad, control what we do, and often how we do it. These habits have been formed from years of repetitively doing the same thing every day, in the same way, usually at the same time. Try cleaning your teeth with your non-dominant hand to see how ‘programmed’ we have all become. Our phone habits, computer habits are now dictating how we even wake in the morning. Think about it, what habits are controlling your life? Is it time to change a few?
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you have a genuine friend, you are wealthy beyond words. Friends are precious! Treat them with care and respect. Be the best friend you can be to the people you know, love and respect. Having a true friend is better than all the anxiety medications in the world.
Failing to decide is equal to deciding to fail. Every day we are presented with choices: what to eat, to wear, to do; these are very basics. More important choices pop up unexpectedly, getting into the habit or being comfortable to make a snap decision (based on previous experiences) is an art and practice is the way to perfect it. Practice making quick decisions. Every decision can be corrected by another. Write down the pros and cons of life-changing decisions – anaylsis against your desired outcome. If it fits, go with it. Keep moving to get more out of life.
It is the little things that matter when you are ‘different!’ Whether it is because you are a bit quirky, overweight, loud, or simply born a little physically or mentally different – all you really want to be is accepted, respected and treated like everyone else. Its time for humanity to step up! Its time for everyone to be ‘respected!’
Values dictate your results. What you prioritise in your life is neither right nor wrong, it is simply something that you put a high value on attaining. You may be an avid saver or a shopaholic. A Mum passionate about her children and family or a career person – Values are individual. It is when life is ‘not working for you’ you feel stuck or constantly procrastinating, that you need to gain direction. A Values Determination will show you exactly why you are feeling so demotivated. When your Values are aligned with your daily life/career life simply flows from one success to another.
Are you always getting angry, bursting into tears, or seem to fixate or dwell on the ‘small things that go wrong? Your emotions may be running your life. When you are ‘out of balance’, when life feels too hard and you react emotionally, it’s time to stop and think… what’s really driving me and my decisions.
Is the Joy of Life being sucked out of you? Do you become ‘consumed’ by the troubles of others? Our mental health and wellbeing is vital to living a joy filled life. When an environment becomes toxic, and you cannot change it, its time to leave. Your physical health will deteriorate if you succumb to mental stress.