We have had a lot of life changes over the past year or so. We have learned that not only can things change unexpectedly but, also, very quickly.
How we respond or react to these changes in those first few moments or days is really crucial to our mental health.
Fear creates anxiety and stress, especially if the event is unexpected and sudden. So, how do you cope? Do you drop into Fight, Flight, or Freeze? Meaning do you get angry, try to hide, or just feel numb, unable to move.
Dealing with Shock
Also once the initial shock has worn off how quickly do you bounce back and start processing and dealing with the situation. Do you stay in the drama, reliving and retraumatizing yourself daily? All of these responses are run by the subconscious, there is no right or wrong.
It is just your subconscious mind trying to protect you from the events happening at that moment. When the event is perceived as overwhelming, often the subconscious is unable to process what is happening, resulting in the event not being stored as a memory. This means the ‘action’ is left in the subconscious, running in the background! Anything is vaguely related to the event will trigger off the ‘reactive recall’ of the trauma/emotions/fears associated with what happened.
You relive the memory in the subconscious. It’s like a loop being played continuously in your subconscious mind. Whenever there is a possibility of a similar event happening, no matter how minute the subconscious will relive the event. This triggering will affect every area of your life to some degree.
It becomes unresolved stress and trauma which in turn leads to long-term stress, anxiety, fear and depression.
At Transformations Coaching and Hypnotherapy we work daily with clients who are suffering from unresolved stress and trauma of the past. Many of these clients have been on anti-depressants for years but are still depressed, fearful and angry. They can see no way to cope.