Even wondered why you do what you do? Why you instantly like one person, but avoid another. We have this ‘gut feeling’ that something didn’t ‘feel’ right when we met! Why is this? I was talking to colleagues and we were discussing how much they had disliked a person that they had just met. They said that the energy surrounding the person ‘felt’ toxic and they couldn’t wait to move away. This got us thinking about why we don’t like people even if we have never had anything to do with them before meeting them.
It struck me that this comes down to values. When someone agrees with your values you like them but when they go against your values you dislike them. This doesn’t just apply to people, when anything goes against your values you don’t like it. If your top value is family, you will not ‘sync’ with a person or event that conflicts with your views on ‘family. Another example: Perhaps, you hold honesty as an honorable trait, but know that you sometimes tell a ‘white lie?’ How do you reconcile the two? Does that mean honesty is an ‘on’ or ‘off’ thing dependant on circumstances? No. It is just an alignment of values.
Everything, “just is”. In other words, it is neither wrong nor right. It only becomes wrong or right when you run it through your value system.
We spend our lives fulfilling our top values. In fact, our lives demonstrate our top priorities. All communication breakdowns are simply Values Conflicts. It is not anything to do with the person or the thing that the argument might be with or about. One person is just clashing against the values of the other. This is a Values clash. The biggest problem is that most of us don’t realise this, because we do not know what our top priority is life is!
When we understand our top values, we know why we do what we do! It becomes obvious why we dislike or like a person or thing. It becomes easy to make decisions, as the question becomes: ” does this align with my values, yes then do it, no and you won’t do it.
Knowing your values is essential when setting goals or planning your future. If your goals are aligned with your top 3 values, then you will be inspired to achieve them.
As I said previously most of us don’t know what our top values are. If you would like to find out what they are why not contact me on 1300 64 53 54 and set up a time to uncover exactly what is driving your life. I guarantee that once you know what you Value are you will never look at the world the same again.